Friday, January 19, 2007
We all have some things that we fear, usually these fears come from negative things, unfamiliar things or people, and making changes. They are afraid of self-help because of this fear. Psychological self-help may help you in this situation.
In psychological self-help, The best way to remove this fear is to understand that life is always in the cycle of ups and downs. No one is always up or always down. Remember that no one can avoid these ups and downs even rich people or the most envied Hollywood stars.
What we should do about these downs is to learn from it and not to avoid it. We should learn how to handle our problems for our psychological self-help.
Problems affect us every day. These problems bring us misery due to the fact that we have these negative feelings. We should never loose hope in figuring out solutions to these problems. All we need is to learn how to overcome it and not let the problem overcome us.
Psychologists say that we should always be careful in our decisions concerning our problems. We should handle our problems properly and learn how to deal with it. Learning from mistakes helps us in preparing ourselves when other problems arise.
There are a lot of myths that say every event in our lives is due to some pre-determined reason. Another belief says that what we encounter in our lives today is our preparation for other things that may come in our lives. To understand what may happen to us in the future, we must learn from the past and the present.
It's also true that the unexpected can happen anytime. However, you should keep in mind that self-help is not always for the worse and consequently, you must never let go of a good opportunity, because you are afraid to take the risk.
Remember that, from time to time, something has to happen in order to free you from monotony, so you shouldn’t be surprised if, at a certain moment in time, instead of being afraid of change, you desire it with all your heart.
If there is something hindering you from going on, here are some tips to help you move forward:
- Just think of the positive impacts results from the changes. Know important they are and reflect on how to increase them, by adding some other good aspects, which need certain assistance.
- Try to picture somebody else in your situation, as picturing ourselves in a less desirable position, always looks more dramatic than it really is. If you realize that the other person can handle the change, you can be sure you’ll be able to handle it as well.
- Think of the worst situation that can result after the change. Try to find various solutions to it. Reflect on how much you can loose, if the worst happened, and how important those things are to you. If you find more than one reasonable solution, you are safe and the self-help can’t be stronger than you are!
All we need is to learn how to handle some negative changes. We should also reflect from it to learn and use it in the future events that we may encounter.
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