Thursday, March 27, 2008
Generation NeXt Marriage: The Couple's Guide to Keeping It Together by Tricia Goyer
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Tricia Goyer is the author of twelve books of fiction and nonfiction, including the Gold Medallion finalist Life Interrupted. Tricia writes for Today’s Christian Woman and Focus on the Family, speaks numerous times each year to women’s groups, and has been a workshop presenter at the Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS) national convention. Generation NeXt Marriage is the companion book to the popular Generation NeXt Parenting. Tricia and her husband, John, live with their family in northwestern Montana.
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ABOUT THE BOOK:
Do you still find yourself humming the love songs of the 80s and 90s?
Do you still believe that every marriage should be between soul mates?
But...do you wonder how you can succeed at love and marriage when the generation you grew up in didn’t?
Marriage isn’t what it used to be–it can be better than ever.
If you are a Gen Xer, your marriage has challenges and potentials that no other generation has known. A Gen Xer herself, Tricia Goyer offers realistic help to achieve the God-honoring marriage you long for. She includes...
- Ways to protect your marriage despite the broken relationships modeled in your youth
- Stories, suggestions, and confessions from fellow Gen Xers facing the "What now?" question of real-life marriage
- Advice from the ultimate marriage survival guide: the Bible
- Stats, quizzes, sidebars, and study questions related to this "relationally challenged" time in history
- Practical helps for negotiating kids, work, sex, money, and dirty laundry–sometimes all in the same evening
If you are part of a generation of adults who don’t want to bow to their culture or live and love like their parents did . . . this book is for you.
Read an excerpt from Generation NeXt Marriage HERE!
Five unique marriage challenges faced by Gen Xers and how to tackle them!
1. Gen Xers saw more divorces than successful marriages. The divorce rate doubled between 1965-1977 and Gen Xers were the victims. 40% of us spent time in a single-family home before age 16. We grew up in families with step-moms and half-siblings and living every other weekend with a different parent and faced the loneliness and alienation of our splintered families. As married adults, Gen Xers can meet their spouse's need by speaking encouraging words, which are like gold stars to a Gen Xer's heart -- and by never using the D-word. As author Madeleine L'Engle once said, "There are a lot of marriages today that break up just at the point where they could mature and deepen."
2. Without role models, many GenXers turned to music, movies and television for examples of healthy relationships. Now, we often model our relationships after television sitcoms. We are good at quick comebacks and sassy remarks, without taking time to consider the other person's heart. We also want our problems wrapped up in thirty minutes or less! Instead, Gen Xers need to understand that unrealistic expectations can hurt our relationships. We also need to treat out spouses with honor and respect, even when we don't feel like they deserve it.
3. Our teen relationships were intense and often included sexuality, leading to intense breakups and the resulting baggage. By the time many GenXers walked down the aisle, they'd experienced several "pretend-marriages." Spouses can break free from these bonds when we realize the truth about love, the truth about emotions, and the truth about intimacy. It's knowing that what we had in the past wasn't love -- and emotions don't rule. True intimacy is choosing to share our hearts and our struggles with the one we're committed to for life.
4. Gen Xers were starved for quality time, so they appreciate balance. Doing too much stresses us out. The first thing Gen Xers need to do is realize the impact of our faced-pace lives, and then make plans for peace. It's cutting out things that won't matter ten years from now and focusing on the things that will.
5. Gen Xers were labeled the "slackers" and the "grunge" generation. The generations before didn't think we'd amount to much. Because of this, Gen Xers strive hard to prove themselves. We aren't content just "living life," we want to reach our full potential. Spouses can encourage each other to follow their heart dreams. This starts with asking your spouse out his/her dreams, then offering encouragement and support!
MY REVIEW & RECOMMENDATION:
Whether you're a GeneXer, a Millenial or a Baby Boomer, you'll find the principles of this book relevant, insightful and satisfying. It's the ultimate marriage guide for couples of all faiths.
Generation NeXt Marriage offers practical advice so couples don't fall into the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband. It helps avoid unrealistic expectations that bring about conflict when you merge your life with another. The book also helps you understand yourself, your partner and your marriage in context of your generation so you can take another approach and create a more open, committed, mutually satisfying relationship that lasts.
Generation NeXt Marriage delivers realistic tips from people who've "been there and done that" so you can build a healthy marriage without sacrificing mutual respect, integrity, and/or personal belief. So, if you have to read a book about enriching your personal relationship with your partner today, make it Generation NeXt Marriage!
Generation NeXt Marriage: The Couple's Guide
to Keeping It Together by Tricia Goyer
Publisher: Multnomah Books
Release Date: January 15, 2008
$10.19 from Amazon.com
Purchase Generation NeXt Marriage by Tricia Goyer HERE!!!